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Dr. Joanne Swenson's avatar

This is honest and vulnerable – good writing, therefore.

There are other ways to connect and express love besides talk and texting. In Minnesota, you can scrape the ice off your partner's car windows before they leave in the morning.

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Kate Rogers & Elizabeth Kendig's avatar

Too true, Joanne, too true!

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Stephanie March's avatar

I love the team vibe of Marty/Kate! Just because you're not incessantly checking in doesn't mean you are checked out. There's a cool assurance and confidence there, that reads as trust. Actual #goals for me, and prezactly what I'd be looking for in a dude.

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Kate Rogers & Elizabeth Kendig's avatar

Omg Steph, just because you aren't incessantly checking in doesn't mean you are checked out. Genius. This is reason #449 why we love you so much.

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Joanne Torres's avatar

Crop-dusting. Hahahahhahahaha. That's so real. Existing near your longterm partner, without the expectation that you both know each other's every thought, is really lovely. Assumes a level of independence and formality that is very underrated in modern marriages. Sometimes, the Victorian Era gets it right. That Zyntimacy vid demanded an iOS "Haha", though. Unforgivable to not get a response to that!

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Kate Rogers & Elizabeth Kendig's avatar

Borrowed phrase from a slightly more unsavory definition! 💨 We could definitely benefit from some Victorian era etiquette in this house. -E

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Kate Rogers & Elizabeth Kendig's avatar

Hard agree on an iOS haha @joannetorres! At a minimum! -K

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Pat's avatar

Great conversation here. How well you listen to your partner may be more important than how much you actually talk!

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Kate Rogers & Elizabeth Kendig's avatar

Wow, yes, underscoring this truth, Pat!

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